tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3537634935444359971.post1922081022962784339..comments2023-07-16T05:11:15.233-04:00Comments on View from Down Here: Can I have it all?viewfromdownherehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06617837422220577661noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3537634935444359971.post-86481508853169446102012-07-24T22:10:49.690-04:002012-07-24T22:10:49.690-04:00Oh honey, this just broke my heart. I think we all...Oh honey, this just broke my heart. I think we all go through our own versions of this "can I have it all?" thing. My only advice is to understand that there is no such thing as "it all". We all just do the best we can. And I absolutely recommend delegating and prioritizing. And spending as much time with Aubrey as you can, but never beating yourself up if you can't. You're a wonderful and loving mother. Cut yourself a break.gretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00952840544630534206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3537634935444359971.post-17286750560830887092012-07-24T15:24:23.958-04:002012-07-24T15:24:23.958-04:00I read and then shared that same article on Facebo...I read and then shared that same article on Facebook last week. It resonated with me, too, because after trying to have/do it all for so many years, I finally reached my breaking point when my oldest was 8. I was managing a jewelry store, and for a week during the holiday season I didn't see her awake at all. One. Whole. Week. She was home, I was home, but I had to leave before she woke and got home long after she was asleep. I changed careers two months later.<br /><br />Now, I'm in a more flexible position. I have evenings, weekends, and holidays off. I would still like to be at home, and would love to write, but financially that's not possible right now. I realized, though, that "having it all" means following my heart as much as possilbe instead of trying to conform to society's idea of what having it all really means.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14179273634809557825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3537634935444359971.post-37443854394685650712012-07-24T09:58:45.927-04:002012-07-24T09:58:45.927-04:00You hit the nail on the head, balance. I firmly be...You hit the nail on the head, balance. I firmly believe society tells us we can do it all and it means all. It sends that message to working women, SAHM, single women, married women, women of every stripe. <br /><br />Maybe I don't see it because I'm a woman but I don't believe it sends the same message to men. Oh sure they have certain pressures, and even some unattainable pressures, but I don't see them getting the same pressures from society, (i.e. the media) that we get.<br /><br />I urge you to 1) delegate more of your work load 2) make time for Aubrey and T, for Aubrey, for T. As much as you want to spend every waking moment with Aubrey, T needs your time, you marriage needs that intention 3) say no once in a while, maybe a lot more often. If no one picks up the slack, leave it. What happens when you pick it up? Everyone says, "oh don't worry about it, Alaina will get it" 4) find out what you really want to do, and do those things, again leave the rest for someone else and if no one takes it, leave it.<br /><br />It is a tough row to hoe when you're a perfectionist. You see the need and you know it needs to be filled, that doesn't mean you have to fill it. That is the one of the hardest things to let go of.<br /><br />I'm praying for you Doll. Find that balance and when society (or even someone like me) gives you advice that just doesn't gel, politely say, "screw you!"<br /><br />♥<br /><a href="http://lillian-davis.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Lily-Thinking Thoughts</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934178675925534780noreply@blogger.com