Sorry for lack of content last Friday...that is what happens when I do the writing thing. It's hard to keep up. Plus, I managed to pull off a big work "open house" at our office. So...busy, busy. Actually I probably have no excuse as Friday was a "snow day" for me and the Aubster, but seriously...doing any kind of "work" around Aubrey or even getting on the computer is a pipe dream. I swear I'm going to hear the words "MOMMY! BE BACK!!!" in my sleep. Apparently anytime I leave her line of sight, this is her response. And I was followed every time I went to the bathroom. I swear, I just want to pee alone. Serenity now!!!
It was a pretty chill weekend, minus the demands of a screaming two-year-old, but we did get some relief with a date night. We finally got to use the Olive Garden gift card we won at the last marriage ministry event, so we went to church sans kid, dinner and then Target to finish up Santa presents. It's not the most glamorous of dates, but it was fun. We got a bottle of wine and of course, my favorite, tiramisu, for dessert. The Santa thing was just a necessity, as there is no way we could pull that off with eagle eyes wanting to get everything we put in the cart.
We were out for creating memories. At the last marriage ministry event, we got an envelope of "mystery dates," where you had to take a sealed envelope and anything directed on the envelope with you. This one was about memories - those from our childhood, dating, and now. It was fun discussing times in the past and reliving those wonderful memories. Something that we both noted was all of these memories were pre-Aubrey or even pre-marriage, which left us both asking whether we had become dull or "old married couple" too soon. What happened to us?
I don't think that's the case, though, because I started bringing up fun times we had this past year just the two of us and those since we were married. I think more than anything we seem to forget the ones post-Aubrey because we're both on autopilot as parents but also we focus so much on being parents that we don't step back and take mental pictures of the memories we are also creating for us. Those memories include Aubrey but they also include those times where we're alone, maybe out having fun or even just being home. We both agreed we need to refocus and really take a step back and recognize those moments and memories.
We have only been married for 3 years so I'm no expert but I can imagine this is something that is easy to fall into. Some people don't ever recognize it until it's too late or never ever recognize it. I don't want that to happen. Some of my best memories ever have been with my best friend, T, by my side. I look forward to those memories we have yet to create and I treasure all of the ones we have already created.
Speaking of creating memories....night on the town - 2 weeks away! No kid for an entire night - yay!
Toddlers. Oh, toddlers. We're having a new "stage" with Miss Aubrey, and I'm at a loss.
Little Miss Thang seems to not want to nap at daycare, or at least she hasn't the past three days this week. Not only does she not want to sleep at daycare, but she throws an all-out exorcism for the teachers in order to not sleep. It got so bad on Tuesday that I went and took her home early, thinking she was getting sick or something. But she's not. And the not sleeping thing is only at daycare. Any normal night, we put her down for bed, she's wide awake, kisses us good night and does not shed a tear as we close the door. We stayed at my parent's house at Thanksgiving, and she readily took a nap and went to bed at night with absolutely no problems. So what gives?
There could be a number of factors, really. It's not teething because giving her Tylenol and a teething ring do nothing. It's not that she doesn't have her comfort item as she has both her Butterfly and blanket with her. And she loves her teachers. The one thing that could be causing a problem is Aubrey emulating the behavior of another little girl in her class who is not adjusting at all to daycare. This kid cries the entire time she's there, and they believe possibly Aubrey is mimicking her behavior because the other child gets attention. Regardless of what the reason is, my kid is coming home exhausted.
She falls asleep as soon as we leave the daycare, and then after our commute, we inevitably have to wake her. She wakes up, disoriented and cranky, just miserable all around. She's that way until we put her to bed, as she sobs through her bath out of exhaustion. It's just so sad. And I worry about the fact she is not getting this much needed rest.
The thing that hurts even more is when the daycare calls to tell me she is upset, and I hear her in the background. I went and got her on Tuesday, but I can't keep that up. All that will do is teach her that if she cries, Mommy will come get her, right?
Otherwise, the kid is as sweet as pie during the day, according to her teachers. It is not until nap time that she throws these inconsolable fits. I'm at a loss. I don't know what to do. It's not something that's a general behavior because she doesn't do it anywhere except daycare. So it's not like T and I could do something at home to fix it. But it makes me physically anxious thinking of her miserable at school. I find myself praying all day that she gets at least 30 minutes of sleep or at least lays there calmly during nap.
But I'm at a loss. I hate this whole "not knowing what's really going on because she can't talk" thing.
My kid is growing up too quickly! It's not a bad thing per se, but sometimes it's just like "wow, I cannot believe she's doing all of this now!" Her new thing is using words to form full sentences. It is so amazing how something that is effortless to us is so new and exciting for a little one. And to me, it's the sweetest thing I have ever heard.
Yesterday as T and I were putting her to bed, after reading one of her favorites, Snuggle Puppy, T picked her up to take her to the crib. She always takes books with her to bed and quietly looks at them until she falls asleep. (What can I say? She is honestly a book worm already and she can't even read.) Well, the book fell from her hands so I bent down to pick it up for her, and I hear the words "Thank you, Mommy" and she leaned in to kiss me. Heart. Melt. Seriously, those three words absolutely made my day.
This morning I kept sneezing when I was changing her diaper and each time I did that, she said "God bless you, Mommy." At first I thought it was just me hearing things but every time she kept saying it.
She's so silly in that she'll point out body parts while we're dressing her, too. "Nose," pointing to my nose. "Eyes" basically poking out my eyes. And I suppose we should stop calling her toes little piggies because she refers to her toes as piggies, but it is too darn cute.
Every time we leave the living room and head up to go to bed, she turns to the Christmas tree and says "Bye-bye tree!"
I'm going to eat these moments up while I can, as well as those moments like last night when she kept hugging and kissing on me. I know she will not always want to do that, so I'll take these mental pictures so that I can remember them later in life when she's a teenager and too embarrassed to even be seen around me. Until then, it's amazing, those sweet little words.
Random Tuesday, folks...I sit here Monday night trying to figure out what to type, and all I have is this first one, and well...it's not enough to justify a full post.
Dear Silk, Let me be the first lactose intolerant person to say you suck for not bringing back the seasonal chocolate mint silk. Seriously. I love that stuff, and for 11 months I have dreamed of this chocolate, minty goodness. Only to be disappointed that you are not making it this year. No warning at all?
And what's up, Target, with offering chocolate mint milk? So you can let my husband enjoy this delicious concoction in all its glory, rubbing it in my face that I will become violently ill if I were to drink it? What the hell?
That's it, I'm buying some mint syrup.
Houston, we have a problem. T and I are signed up to run a race Saturday morning, and not only is it going to be cold but also snowing. Pushing a 35 lb toddler in a running stroller in the snow? I'm not sure my body can do that. Must figure out alternate plan ASAP.
So Aubrey loves our tree, especially the Sesame Street ornaments on the bottom. These promptly come off the tree as soon as we get home. It's kind of sweet.
She's also obsessed with lights. If I turn on one of our living room lights, I must immediately turn on the one across the room or she will literally pull me there to turn it on. Come on, Mom....get with it.
Kids shows are kind of disturbing. I love Sesame Street but some of the stuff on there just blows my mind. Aubrey loves Lazy Town, which....yeah....it's from Iceland if that tells you anything, and no way in hell will I ever let her watch Cailou. The other day the Wiggles were on, and when did they bring on a female Wiggle? Mind. blown.
I think we have a makeup date night this weekend. I don't want to jinx it because our sitter has had to reschedule twice on us, but keep your fingers crossed. We need it. I love me some Aubrey, but holy cow, I could use a time-out just every now and then. Single moms...no way do I understand how you do it. Mad props, you get mad props.
In addition to a date night, I'm in desperate need of a girls evening. L to the YN, you down?
Speaking of girls' nights, back in the day at IU there was this amazingly delicious but cheap Mexican place that had a weekly "Taco Tuesday" where you could get the most amazing tacos for $1 each. Hence my title. I could so go for one of their potato tacos. Sounds gross? No, more like amazing.
I realize that I sound like some kind of douchey teenager with half of what I'm writing here. I swear, I haven't lost my mind. It's watching Finding Bigfoot. I think Bobo is rubbing off on me.
We had a monumentally crapptasitc Monday so keep your fingers crossed that today goes well. Hope you all have a good day, too!
I'm totally not okay with the fact that the long weekend is over. Just in case you were wondering, I feel I should tell you all this. But at least Christmas is like three weeks away so I guess I'll take solace in that. Anyway, we had a pretty decent Thanksgiving. In good Nain and T style, we started it off like a bunch of crazy people at the ass-crack of dawn running in 20 degree weather. We spent the night at my parent's house the night before so we could leave Aubrey with them and not subject her to our insanity. The race was through Broadripple, and it was a 4.65 mile run (I am sure there's some significance to that number...), and I'm pretty proud. I did 4.65 miles in 54:54:6. That is an 11:48 pace which is an all-time best for me. I was exhausted but still on my runner's high.....
And then my jam Ol' Dirty Bastard "Got your money" came on....and that made me even more excited, or perhaps I was just experiencing lack of oxygen at this point.
But I felt like I could relate to Ol' Dirty Bastard. I mean, every time I get paid for writing I sing this song to T. I'm such a G....
We headed back to my parent's house for merriment and cheer. And like any good family holiday, that involves beverages. Port in one hand, Merlot in the other.
Tired but relaxing and having a good time. I joked that we never get pictures taken together anymore. That's what happens when you stop dating, right?
Aubrey had a ton of fun with my family, especially her cousins...
Trying to walk in Papaw's shoes...
Mommy's little turkey....
The next day T and I decorated after Aubrey went to bed. I must say decorating when you have a 2-year-old is tough with the "will she break this?" or "will she be able to reach this?" with everything. She was so excited to see the tree the next morning. Mommy took the opportunity to take a few pictures for Christmas cards. Here are some sneak peaks....
Well, this one isn't a Christmas card one...but I wanted to take a picture with my girl.
Isn't she the cutest little Santa ever?
Alabama v. Auburn game tragedy aside, it was a pretty good holiday. I look forward to another one, because did I mention how not happy I am to have to get back to the norm?
Today is the very last day of 30 Days of Thanks. I'm pretty impressed with myself that I actually wrote every single day this month. Now, don't expect this to be a normal thing....writing on the weekends is a bit tough :-) Anyway, so I was thinking and thinking that whatever I had to be thankful for today better be significant because it is Day 30 after all.
So I thought and thought....and then I watched this Huffington Post video of a man whose girlfriend found out that he was going to propose so he went through this elaborate date where he kept faking her out that he was going to ask the big question until he finally did. And it brought me back to that rainy July 4th over 4 years ago. And the feelings flooded back of how much we had ahead of us, our future, counting down the days until we could be "us," man and wife. The future. And that was it.
Today I am thankful for our future.
We aren't quite to the end of the year yet, and you always picture people looking to the future year at the end of the December, but that's not really the future I'm thinking about. Honestly, 2014 probably won't be that "life-changing" of a year. I don't anticipate that being the case, but you never know. Stranger things have happened.
I'm talking about the future, future. What will it bring for our family? For T? Myself? For Aubrey? We are where we are right now in life, but really, we have just started our adventure together. I have no idea what tomorrow will bring, let alone the next few years. It's fun to think of the possibilities - where can we go? Will we always live here? Will I always do the same thing? What will Aubrey be like as she grows up? What adventures will we embark on as a family?
I know it sounds cheesy, but honestly I'm not the kind of person who thinks of the future in that way. I'm a worrier, so when I think of the future, it usually involves me fretting over something minute and insignificant thing. But for just once I want to think of the future of something wondrous and unknown. Who knows what tomorrow will bring? I, for one, can't wait to find out.
I am still in a food coma, writing this on Thursday night as T and I barely stay awake watching the Charlie Brown Thanksgiving special. So bear with me if none of this makes sense. I'm guessing there will be a lot of rambling...anyway, despite it being Thanksgiving already, I'm going to finish out this 30 days of thanks. I start something, and dammit, I will finish it!
Today I am thankful for traditions. After the Aubster goes to bed on Friday, T and I will decorate. Normally we would start earlier, but I'm not sure Aubrey would let us put up a thing without her touching every single item. She'll be surprised when she wakes up, and we're going to have to be really creative with how we decorate this year. I'm guessing the Belleek china nativity set will not be going out this year. And all ornaments within her reach will be nonbreakable. But she'll love it, I have no doubt.
It's our tradition for decorating, ever since we had our first Christmas together in the rental home back in 2009. We make a crock pot of mulled wine and enjoy Christmas music while we set the house up. It's not a huge tradition, but it's something we do every year. I do love me some mulled wine. And I always love putting up the tree. It's so pretty, and I'm so excited to see it through her eyes and celebrate with her.
And we're only just three weeks away from another Nain and T tradition where we ditch the kid (babysitting with the Aunt), and go hit the town for a night. I'm soooo looking forward to that tradition.
I have to admit I love all of my holiday traditions. I promise to have pictures! (From Thanksgiving and of course of our decorations!)
Oh and thankful I'm not crazy enough to go out into the Black Friday madness. Um, yeah, no thanks!