A work in progress

We are working on making things a little less hectic and stressful around the Nain and T household to see if that helps with Aubrey's behavior.  This past weekend we had one of the best ones we have had in a long time.  No arguing, no depression...just a good weekend.  We didn't end up doing too much due to weather, but we both kept busy, and the important thing is we kept a united front when it came to Aubrey.  When she threw a fit, we would hardly acknowledge it, talking calmly but sternly and emphasizing that Mom and Dad are the ones in charge.  The result?  She had a much better day at daycare on Monday.  
Now the napping....yeah....
We transitioned her to a toddler bed this weekend.  She has no problem whatsoever with the nighttime and staying in bed, but during the day is a whole other picture.  This is Aubrey reacting to her new big girl bed:

Do you think she was excited?  And note the outfit....as part of this whole behavior modification thing we have started letting her make some choices like a big girl.  One of these is picking her outfit.  This was her selection on Saturday.  It's hit or miss. :-)  The other is picking her bedtime story.  She chose "The First Thanksgiving" as reading material the other night.  But hey, she is a big girl, and she picked it out!
So Sunday during nap, we hear bangs, things dropping, and when I finally came to get her at two, every single item you could possibly imagine was taken out.  All books were off the shelves, all clothes out of the dresser, toys everywhere, blankets strewn everywhere.  Her room is now barren in terms of anything within reach.  All books, toys, blankets, everything is in the closet.  We already turned the door knob around to lock her in there.  It's funny because we'll hear her knocking when she's awake at 6 a.m.  "Come on, guys!  It's time to get up!"  
So I guess it's a half victory.  She loves it at night.  She loves it during the day, too, but I think it's more the "hey, I can climb out of this thing!" part of it.  We're hoping it'll correlate to staying on her cot at daycare.  We'll see.  
My patience is being tried, but I think we can do this.  For her.  I want nothing but to see my daughter succeed in life, and it breaks my heart that she was acting out so much, more than just a normal toddler, and we had no idea about it.  But now that we do, we'll get there.  Just baby steps.  
We're a work in progress, what can I say?