Monday, December 9, 2013

Making memories

Sorry for lack of content last Friday...that is what happens when I do the writing thing.  It's hard to keep up.  Plus, I managed to pull off a big work "open house" at our office.  So...busy, busy.  Actually I probably  have no excuse as Friday was a "snow day" for me and the Aubster, but seriously...doing any kind of "work" around Aubrey or even getting on the computer is a pipe dream.  I swear I'm going to hear the words "MOMMY!  BE BACK!!!" in my sleep.  Apparently anytime I leave her line of sight, this is her response.  And I was followed every time I went to the bathroom.  I swear, I just want to pee alone.  Serenity now!!!
It was a pretty chill weekend, minus the demands of a screaming two-year-old, but we did get some relief with a date night.  We finally got to use the Olive Garden gift card we won at the last marriage ministry event, so we went to church sans kid, dinner and then Target to finish up Santa presents.  It's not the most glamorous of dates, but it was fun.  We got a bottle of wine and of course, my favorite, tiramisu, for dessert.  The Santa thing was just a necessity, as there is no way we could pull that off with eagle eyes wanting to get everything we put in the cart.  
We were out for creating memories.  At the last marriage ministry event, we got an envelope of "mystery dates," where you had to take a sealed envelope and anything directed on the envelope with you.  This one was about memories - those from our childhood, dating, and now.  It was fun discussing times in the past and reliving those wonderful memories.  Something that we both noted was all of these memories were pre-Aubrey or even pre-marriage, which left us both asking whether we had become dull or "old married couple" too soon.  What happened to us?
I don't think that's the case, though, because I started bringing up fun times we had this past year just the two of us and those since we were married.  I think more than anything we seem to forget the ones post-Aubrey because we're both on autopilot as parents but also we focus so much on  being parents that we don't step back and take mental pictures of the memories we are also creating for us.  Those memories include Aubrey but they also include those times where we're alone, maybe out having fun or even just being home.  We both agreed we need to refocus and really take a step back and recognize those moments and memories.  
We have only been married for 3 years so I'm no expert but I can imagine this is something that is easy to fall into.  Some people don't ever recognize it until it's too late or never ever recognize it.  I don't want that to happen.  Some of my best memories ever have been with my best friend, T, by my side.  I look forward to those memories we have yet to create and I treasure all of the ones we have already created.
Speaking of creating memories....night on the town - 2 weeks away!  No kid for an entire night - yay!


  1. Haha, it never fails even when they are older, the second you go into the bathroom someone starts calling for Mom! :-)

  2. I'm so happy to hear about your date. Yes, it is far too easy to lose track of the "us" as you grow a family. It is possible though. It just requires a mental shift. =)

  3. So curious about the mystery dates. Sounds like a fun way to get conversation started, especially when our conversation is usually centered around work, what we have coming up and the kids. Sadly the only date nights we have coming up are for our work holiday parties. But I can't complain - at least we're getting out!


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