I consider myself to be a fairly tolerant person. I am open-minded. I'm one of those unique people out there who are considered liberal-Catholics. I have my faith, which is so important to who I am, but at the same time, I'm financially liberal (hello, working in a legal services agencies kind of makes that a given, right?), and I may offend several of you out but I am pro-gay marriage and pro-choice. Now would I choose to have an abortion. No, not at all. But I don't judge. I'm happy to listen to your viewpoints and consider them. Do I need to agree with them? No, not really, but I don't judge because of them.
Anyway, that's not the point of this post. The point I'm trying to make here is I try my very best to be open-minded. My friends come from all walks of life, and they all have a variety of opinions and views on life and what is important to them. And I love that. I respect that. I have several friends who are atheists and are so openly. They respect my lifestyle and view points, and I don't ever give them any level of disrespect for that. Do I agree with their views? No, but who I am I to judge? Who am I to push my views off on them? There is only one person who I need to judge, and that is myself and the person I am, the way I treat others.
So I do get a little tired when I see people out there lumping those of us who would fall in a certain category and outwardly bashing the way we live and believe. It's all part and parcel of free speech, and as a lawyer, I respect that, too. You are allowed to your views, and you are allowed to express them. I just don't appreciate being judged. I don't appreciate being judged for being spiritual by those who aren't. I don't appreciate being judged because I'm Catholic by those who aren't and those who have misunderstandings or lack of knowledge of what being Catholic really means. I grow tired of being judged for being a Democrat and being labeled as "liberal" as if it's some awful thing. I grow tired of being told I'm going to hell because I'm pro-choice. Or for the fact that two of my closest friends are lesbians, and I recently went to their wedding. I grow tired of being judged for the fact that T and I chose to live in the suburbs. I grow tired of being judged because I chose to formula feed her and I don't make my own baby food. I grow tired of being judged for being a working mother and sending my child to daycare. I grow tired of being judged for the fact that we are choosing to send Aubrey to Catholic school instead of public. I grow tired of being judged for the fact that I chose a legal career that doesn't involve climbing to the top and getting rich. I could go on and on.
I say this in response for a little Facebook spat I got into with a "Facebook friend" and his friend. These two are adamantly against living in the suburbs, and the term "dipshit suburbanite" was thrown out. Against my better judgment, I chose to defend those of us who are these "dipshit suburbanites." And I got a "hey, chill man, I wasn't calling all of you that" as if I were overreacting. It's what I get. I should just hit "ignore" or "hide," which is what I usually do when I see some post from someone being intolerant or name-calling for other's viewpoints. I have very little patience for that. You can express your opinions, it's a free country, but your viewpoints sound much more educated if you leave out the overt judgments and name-calling. Honestly, this is one of the things I truly cannot stand about Facebook. I so looked forward to the end of the election season for this reason. And then the Pope conclave...geez, people had a problem with it. Well, it's not your religion, and the Pope really doesn't affect you so calm down. But I digress...
I'm writing this post after just getting into this little stupid confrontation so I'm a little heated. But I do get tired. Tired of the judgment. I am all of the above things I stated, which I could restate but choose not to. It all makes up who Nain is. I don't need to be around people who are just like me. God, that would be boring. Everyone is different. Do T and I have the same views on each and everything? No. That's not what I want. All I ask is for tolerance and a little civility. Stop the judgment and just let people be.
Don't be hatin'. "Ain't nobody got time for that."