Is my life, my sense of personal identity about to be lost forever?
Let's just say I'm hearing from several negative sources out there some of the following....
"You think you're tired now? Just wait, you won't sleep forever..."
"You think T's going to help you out with that baby? Be prepared for that NOT to happen..."
"Be prepared for your relationship to suffer..." (YES, I have heard that one, believe it or not)
"You may as well give up on the idea of showering..."
"Wearing makeup? Not going to happen."
"You won't want to exercise at all..."
That's just a summary of what I'm hearing. And yes, this is only from about 2-3 sources, but I'm still listening. And absorbing. And wondering. Surely it can't be that horrific, can it?
Granted I'm well aware that with a newborn, I'll be getting very little sleep. I'm not that naive. And I'm aware that when I can, I need to sleep, meaning when she sleeps, I should rest, too. I know that the adjustment period from hospital to home will be different and new. It'll take some time for T and I to figure out the flow and how we're going to do this. But we're a team. We've always been a team. I have 100 percent confidence in our ability to adjust as needed. But I'm not going into this thinking it'll be easy and no bumps in the road will be experienced. But I also know that we have a strong base, and that T will help me out as much as possible.
And exercise and washing my face and making myself feel pretty? Is that a bad thing? Sure, I know I'll be tired, but I know I'll also need to make myself feel good in order to best care for my child. I don't want to fall into some sort of postpartum blues and not get myself out of it. A 10 minute shower? Is not going to hurt my kid, right? Taking a 30 minute walk on the treadmill while T watches Half-pint...is that not a possibilty at all?
I guess what I'm asking is...moms out there, is all of this true? Is it as bad as everyone is making it out to be? Or should I put a sign on me that says "I will only ask or take your opinion if I want it. If not, please keep it to yourself. Unsolicited advice is not wanted?" Because I'm almost at that point.
If only I could just keep myself in isolation from the negative Nancies out there. Because I'm pretty darn excited to be a Mommy, and all these people need to stop raining on my parade!