Thursday, October 18, 2012

That's what makes you beautiful

Second Blooming

This week's Spin Cycle, brought to you by Gretchen at Second Blooming, is on beauty.  Perfect topic.    I've talked about it on here before, and I know many of you know, but I have a side gig as an Independent Mary Kay Beauty Consultant.  I love it.  I get to play with skin care products and make up, socialize with other women, and make them feel beautiful.  The key to this?  Make them feel beautiful.  Notice I don't say make them look beautiful. 

I think one of the toughest things for women is the way we see ourselves.  When you look in the mirror, do you like what you see?  Would you ever like what you see?  Do you consider yourself beautiful?  I know the answer to that for me.  And that answer is a big fat no on most occasions.  And I'm working on that.

Feeling beautiful, feeling good about yourself is so very important.  And I'm not just talking about superficial beauty either.  I'm talking about the beauty that just radiates from a person.  Yes, what I do with Mary Kay does involve a lot of what you see on the outside, but that's not why I do it.  I spend an hour with someone, treating them to some that really is all about them.  They get to pamper themselves, take some time out of their crazy schedule, and treat themselves.  Their skin feels softer, they get to play with makeup and give themselves a new look, and they look in the mirror and go "wow, is that me?"  They may walk away from that hour with a new jump in their step, a new sense of confidence.  Does it truly matter what they look like to the outside world?  No.  All that matters is how they feel inside.  They feel good.  And I think every person deserves to feel good about themselves. 

I truly believes that beauty comes from inside.  And it radiates outside from you.  It's not some superficial quality - how sleek your hair is, how cute your clothes are, how much makeup you wear, how thin you are.  It's who you are, and honestly, how you feel about yourself.  It's the kind of person you are, how good of a heart you have.  Do you feel like you are beautiful?  Because ultimately that's what really matters.  That's what makes you beautiful.  (Yeah, I quoted a One Direction song...)

When I "close" a class, one of my favorite parts is when we go around the table, and each lady compliments someone at the table so that everyone receives a compliment.  Sure, they are making compliments about what is on the outside, but you should see the looks these women get on their faces when they hear a compliment about themselves.  They look back in the mirror, and you can almost see them thinking "Me?  Really?"  And you have to wonder, how do they feel about themselves?  Do they ever get compliments?  Could that one compliment be the thing that makes their day.  The one thing that makes them have that smile on their face as they walk through their day.  It doesn't matter what color the lip shade is that their friend complimented them on.  They feel good.  They feel beautiful. 

So that's my Spin on beauty.  Stop by Gretchen's blog to see what other Spinners have to share about beauty.  And, hey, have a beautiful day, everyone!


  1. This really touched me. I've never really thought about the making someone "feel beautiful" aspect of selling makeup. But it's so true. And this is a wonderful reminder of how important it is to compliment people. Just one little compliment can change someone's day. And sadly, in my experience in showbiz, the women who are the most outwardly conventionally beautiful, are the most insecure about their looks. They need a compliment too. Good for you with your Mary Kay!

    You are linked!

  2. My best friend has one of those personalities that draw people to her, everyone loves her, everyone wants to be around her. It wasn't until the last year or so of our 21 year friendship that I could put my finger on WHY. I'm sure there are actually a ton of reasons people love her but one big thing I noticed is that she makes people feel really good about themselves. She constantly finds something to compliment them on and then takes it about 3 steps beyond that, making them BELIEVE it. They are changed after that interaction, and I've noticed it in little ways over and over since that day that it hit me. It's much more subtle then it sounds but so very effective. Everyone loves people that help them feel better about themselves.

  3. Compliment on my looks were never plentiful when I was growing up--compliments on my accomplishments, got lots of those. I still have a hard time graciously accepting a compliment on my looks. Since I don't do a lot to enhance them, they are really a gift of genetics. I'm getting better--last night both my husband and Turbo told me I was beautiful just the way I am. Made me feel good.

  4. A wonderful lady I know is a consultant, also. She radiates excitement and joy in life. Well into her later years in life, she still is a living example of the inner as well as external beauty.


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